we should change this to “what adulting looks like from a millenial point of view” - i can assure you, having had a long and extended “adolescence” (as a single career girl/entrepreneur and then a single vagabond), that there can be a lot more to both marriage and “true adulthood” than some of these perceptions. granted, at 44 i’m still figuring that out, lol — a life of voluntary simplicity and radical mindset has kept me from a lot of the traps of modern adulthood, such as debt or the standard methods of ownership of large things (which is usually just debt). i am enjoying the EFF out of being married though, but probably only because i’m finally ready for real, true partnership.